The Dangers of Flirting

Just last month I met two girls, of whom both I attempted to flirt with.

The first girl thought I was nearly to die for. She kept smiling throughout our conversation, laughing at the majority of everything that I said. She seemed eager to give out her number, shortly thereafter.

I considered the approach a success.

I could tell the second girl thought I came across as creepy. She continued to look away during our interaction, contributing little towards the conversation, and even though she did give out her phone number (of which I knew I shouldn’t have asked for in the first place) she never responded to my text.

I considered this approach to be a failure.

The difference between the two?

Nothing.

The conversations, although somewhat different, remained the same in regards to my intentions. I noticed a pretty girl, and took action in hopes it may lead somewhere better.

I was the same with the first girl as I was the second. The different reactions, however, could have been for a number of reasons.

Does it really matter why?

Afterall, what if one of the girls already had a boyfriend. What if one was having an awful day and the other wasn’t. What if one just recently called it quits to a serious relationship, or claimed she just needed time to herself. What if one had been sexual traumatized in her past, and had issues trusting men in general?

What if…What if…What if…

The possibilities are endless.

Ultimately, who cares what she may have been thinking at the time of our conversation?

Do the “what if” scenarios matter?

No.

The fact of the matter remains that I continue to act true to myself. I know where I stand on certain issues. I know what I want to do with my life, where I’m headed, and I continue to look for what interests me most.

Some girls will find me sincere, flattering, charming, and ultimately give me their time of day. Some girls simply will not.

There’s nothing more to it.

At the end of the day though, one thing remains certain:

I stay true to myself.

Therefore, the message I am trying to deliver is to put yourself first, always. Love who YOU are, and don’t base the thoughts of yourself off of others, because the opinions of you will vary from interaction to interaction.  

To those who find you endearing, kind-hearted, or worthy of their time, these girls are the ones worth sharing your time with (or all people sharing the same outlook for that matter).

To those who dismiss you, or write you off as creepy, those are the ones who you should avoid in general. You’re never going to please everyone, so stop trying to do so. Accept the fact that it’s not meant to be and move on.

However, these girls mentioned as part of the second group should not be seen as a waste of time, but rather seen as the few who simply help you to filter through those unworthy of your time of day, leaving more time to spend with those who in return want to spend it with you too.

Therefore, all these interactions can be seen as essentially helping you out in some way, and that is something I can be thankful for.